My Holiday

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Well it's my first Christmas in PA, my first Christmas without the kids, and my first Christmas in many years with my family ( such as it is). I got off work yesterday and met up with mom and Paul @ Wal-Mart, wound up not going home to get stuff, just shopping and coming right over here for the night. It's annoying not to have my clothes and things but so be it. Mom was so happy to have me home, I can't be completely sorry to not be elsewhere when I see what happiness it gives her. On the other hand....there was an incident last night involving Paul. A repeat performance sort of of something that happened when I was 18. The bottom line is I am not comfortable here, andI never will be. I love my mom with all my heart but as long as her home is with Paul it will never feel like a safe haven to me. I wish that it didn't havo be that way, but I can't change the way I feel.

On a brighter note my uncle Robby's surgery was successful, they removed the tumor and sent it off to determine what stage the cacer is, I guess. I was so worried about him. I spoke to him earlier today anhe sounds great. Cancer is a word that strikes terror in the heart. We have no family history so I don't understa what caused this. I'm still concerned he's not in the clear yet but I have hope for him and belief in the power of focused positive energy.

The boys didn't ge a ton of stuff, but Santa made his annual visit, and seems to have have done a good job. They are happy, especially Duncan! As long as Santa survives another year to continue his magic for them that's all I care about. I haven't opened any gifts yet, but my best present was Duncan's ve on the phone this morning telling me about his Christmas morning!

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  1. AngieDecember 31, 2009 at 3:01 PM

    I'm glad that overall it was a good holiday! I'm sorry to hear that Paul has made you so uncomfortable. That is really unfortunate, I know how much you and your mom care about each other. And I am ecstatic about Robbie, I hope we keep getting good news. No one keeps me in the loop though, so let me know if you hear anything!
    I'm also very glad to hear that the boys had a good christmas. How was it for your sister and her family?

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