My Randomness

There is "friend" of mine on fb who is getting married in a few hours. To be fair and honest though she's not really a friend, more of a friendly acquaintance. If she were really a friend, I would have told her that I think she's being a total idiot! This woman just got a divorce from her serioulsy abusive husband of like eleven years a few months ago. She met her husband to be about two and a half months ago and between them they have like five or six kids. There are so many issues in that sentence I almost don't know where to begin.... I'm all for being spontaneous and for embracing life, and that sort of thing. I do believe you can know that someone is meant for you in a short time, BUT 1. If you have children you should be much more circumspect in your major life decisions! You aren't just risking your own heart but the hearts, minds, and bodies of your children. 2. The woman in question knew her first husband for some years before they were married, b...

Yeah, so, I have like NO skills with men. Some women are born with the innate ability to flirt and be coquettish, I am not one of them! I crush on anyone who is remotely cute and nice to me. I'm sure it is connected with my daddy issues as a child raised without a father, but this self knowledge is not remotely helpful. I don't flirt well, I either come off as uninterested or desperate, and I have never actually been in a relationship. This combined with my love of all things genre and my weight actually make me an awesome nerd, but sadly nerd girls are not nearly as hot or desirable as you might think! How do you make yourself not think about someone? Especially when the truth of the matter is you have nothing in common with that person, you barely know them and if you did know them you would most likely be disappointed in who they are?! I am about to turn thirty six years old for FSM's sake. Yet I feel like a seventeen year old girl pouting because some boy didn't tex...

The question was raised recently by a friend on Twitter, " Don't you think some are too personal to post online?". removing the obvious like social security number, financial info and such, my first reaction was, "Nope," but then I took a moment. Let me say that in my mind I consider myself a writer. Not saying I am necessarily a "good" writer, but I feel I am a writer, and for myself to be true to that I try to always be honest, and vulnerable, when I write anything. Nothing should be sacred, in my opinion, If you want to be good you have to be honest, and you should, I think, be willing to go out on a limb and reveal things about yourself you're not certain you're comfortable revealing. That being said there is shit that I have done, that I will never, put out there, to the general public. Things I have done, that I am not proud of, and would not want to be judged by. Yes, honesty is important, and in a perfect world we would never do anythin...

If you grow up in a home with emotional and verbal abuse you develop certain traits...for starters you can smell a dangerous mood. Walk in to a room and you will immediately know when someone is on the verge of a wig out. This is useful! Other traits are decidedly less so. I hate confrontation, I will go to extreme lengths to avoid arguing with someone. The result is I wind up with a lot of pent up frustration and unresolved issues with people who are often clueless as to why I am so angry. I also have a horrible temper, inanimate objects usually suffer the most at my hands...doors are slammed, items are thrown, things of that nature, but when pushed too far I can and will snap and become a vicious stranger who will say terrible things. I try, even at my most enraged, to never say "that thing". You know the thing I mean, the one thing that is their Achilles's heel. The thing that will do the most damage. Sometimes I fail. The worst thing I have ever said to someone was a...

Obama's Supreme Court nominee Elena Kagan is about to undergo some serious questioning. I've been keeping an eye on various stories, and one recently caught my eye on Twitter. Melissa Harris Lacewell, a Princeton Professor and frequent contributor to MSNBC tweeted that the question came up in class of Kagan's sexual orientation, it seems she is presumed gay and closeted. So the question was does it make a difference that she is closeted? I am not a member of the LGBT community, but I think the decision to come out has to be a personal one. Do I believe she has a responsibility as a public figure, who could be viewed as a role model? Yes I do. However, ultimately I don't think I or anyone else has the right to force our opinion on someone else. In fact, I see this issue as being very similar to the issue of abortion. I am Pro-Choice. I don't believe I could ever have an abortion, but that is ME. I don't actually know what I would do in an extreme circumstance, a...

I've had a bad day. I'm trying to lose weight, and my scale seems to have it out for me, it will not show me numbers I like. I've stopped drinking soda, stopped eating junk food, anything fried ( and I work @ KFC for cripes sake) and started to walk everyday! I'm just looking for a little recognition damn it!!! Then I go to work, and get called into the office to receive a lecture about how I can not write bad things on my Facebook page about another employee. Now then, let me first comment that I'm pretty damn sure that you cannot tell me what I can or cannot say on FB! Hello, freedom of speech assholes! She said by putting my hate out there I put her in the middle of things because other employees were coming to her about it. Well, then I'd say THEY are putting you in the middle of it, not me. He is in high school but he is 18 years old, and as such a "supposed" adult. Then I reminded her that I had put in a request over a month ago to not be schedu...