My "friend"

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There is "friend" of mine on fb who is getting married in a few hours. To be fair and honest though she's not really a friend, more of a friendly acquaintance. If she were really a friend, I would have told her that I think she's being a total idiot! This woman just got a divorce from her serioulsy abusive husband of like eleven years a few months ago. She met her husband to be about two and a half months ago and between them they have like five or six kids. There are so many issues in that sentence I almost don't know where to begin....

I'm all for being spontaneous and for embracing life, and that sort of thing. I do believe you can know that someone is meant for you in a short time, BUT

1. If you have children you should be much more circumspect in your major life decisions! You aren't just risking your own heart but the hearts, minds, and bodies of your children.

2. The woman in question knew her first husband for some years before they were married, but had fallen out of contact and saw each other one day and were married in very short order...dude do you have no short term recall? This didn't work the first time, WTF makes you think second times the charm?

3. Having married an abusive man you should really be a little more suspect of your taste in men.

4. If you are in love with him after two months, and believe that it's forever, what's the rush? Give yourself a year to truly get to know him and then get married! What's the harm?

I do not claim to be an expert at relationships. Quite the opposite actually....I have like 0 experience at adult relationships but this just seems obvious to me. Call me crazy!

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