One week...
into Maurice's visit. The predictions of fights over Ramen noodles, or for that matter anything, have all been proven false so far. He got here, and despite my concerns over his coming in with L and mom, the ride went well. I'm both surprised and relieved. Everyone here seems to love him, which is not surprising at all, I knew that people would see what I see if they had the opportunity. It simply proves that I am always right, and people should really have more faith on me, lol!!!
We haven't done anything really, between my not being able to afford to take time off work, and being broke we have mostly just stayed in. Not complaining you understand, I love being at home with him, regardless of what we're doing. He "seems" content with it as well, I certainly hope he's not bored...I do know he's been thinking about his kids, and I can sense that he misses them badly. It's the only true cloud on his visit so far, I think. Actually, mom was intent that we see how the chemistry worked in person, so staying in is really a good thing when you think about it, gives us a good idea of how we co-habitate, and like I said everything seems to be going well. I do wonder how long do you have to spend with someone for your average outsider to feel you have a good idea of whether you can live with them? Understand, ultimately it doesn't matter what others think, but it would make things much easier to not have to listen to people telling me how I don't "really" know the man I'm moving to be with, how people lie, and I am being gullible, blah blah blah.... Is three weeks enough? Hmmm, well that's all we get for now, so it'll have to be!
It's very weird how quickly I've gotten used to sharing my bed with someone. I slept on the couch last night because Maurice had a bad headache and I didn't want to disturb him, and it was very hard to fall asleep alone. I missed the feel of his body pressed against mine, the warmth of him. Little things that already seem as natural as breathing. Also, the sight of him can absolutely take my breath away. I've been accused of being too clingy, because I find myself touching him a lot!!! Aside from the fact that I love the way he smells, I just like the feel of his skin, his arms, his back, his chest, the little stubble on his cheeks between shavings...it's all an erotic buffet for my senses. He's so incredibly beautiful. I really do try and maintain some semblance of dignity, but I think it's a lost cause! He says it's fine, I did ask, because it did occur to me that maybe it would be annoying to be constantly petted and hung on...yeah may need to continue to work on controlling that urge.
and for the pervs in the audience, I will briefly say that the sex is amazing. Obviously having been celibate for a year before this, I'm likely to be impressed regardless, but I have had plenty of sex in my life, and this is very very very very very good. And ba de ba de ba de that's all folks! No more details on that subject will be forthcoming in this forum! lmao
So in summary I can't say what's going on in Maurice's mind, he's not the worlds most readable person, but he seems happy, and I know I'm happy, so all is well, and right in my little piece of the world! Even L and he have gotten along, which is a helluva a lot more than I dared to hope for. And my sister has stayed largely away from me, also more than I could have hoped for!!!
I'm really happy for you that you are having such a good visit. And I am so glad that you have had a chance to meet him in person! As far as how long you need to live with someone you are dating before you can really tell how co-habitating will be? From my huge experience of living with two men and a list of roommates (some were life long friends, in fact)- I can tell you my thoughts. I feel that when you first are living together, and especially if you are just starting out in the relationship, and even more so if you haven't known one another very well for very long- you get a nice long (and oh so fun) "honeymoon period." So, just keep that in mind. However, there are also people that will drive you mad after a couple days. And you passed that hurdle!
ReplyDeleteSo many relationships don't work out for so very many reasons. I'm glad that it sounds like you know a few other people in his area. You don't want him to be your primary social outlet- that puts way too much pressure on a new relationship.
But, I do think it is really sad and unfortunate how things seem to be going with Laura. I'm not in the situation, so I don't want to judge, I know you guys have a lifetime of history that comes into play. But I hope that you can work something out. I can't imagine losing my friends. And for me, I could never choose a romance over a lifetime friendship. But I also got married at 22, so I don't presume to know what it is like to even date as a real grown up!
I love you no matter what.
Thanks Ang!! I love you too, and always welcome your feedback. Laura actually seems to like him now that they've met, which is nice. I agree theoretically that aa man should not come between friends and if Maurice had asked me to choose between him and her it would have been over for he and I but he was not the one making it an issue and therein lies the problem. Doesn't matter now though, seems that all is good in that area. As to him being my only social outlet, yeah, the friends I have in MS actually live several hours from where we'll be but I will have a job, and I will make friends, I'm sure and thankfully I have a phone and internet capability so I will not be relying solely on him for support! Too much of a good thing is still too much!!
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